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Being Twenty Something
Being Twenty Something
Wow. I’ve been going through some old online
materials and I found this interesting read. It still has that deep impact –
same as the first time I read it a few years back. The one who wrote this must
be really involved with everything that’s happening in his life for him to be
able to come up with this spot-on piece of writing. Read on.
They call
it the "Quarter-life Crisis."
It is when you stop going along with the crowd
and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you
didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you
are now.
You
start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you
thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever
met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important
ones. What you do not realize
is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to
what you thought you could be doing or maybe you are looking for one and
realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You
miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on
a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after
all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and
what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you
have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is
acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone
and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on
to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further
and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how
someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why
you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out
why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands
and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an
idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions
over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you
cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future
and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right
now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that
everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst
of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss
events, small minds discuss people. The
only graceful way to accept an insult is to ignore it. If you can't ignore
it, top it. If you can't top it, laugh at it. If you can't laugh at it, it's
probably deserved.
When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.
When life gives you scraps, make quilts. Life is 10% what happens to you and
90% how you respond to it. Make every day count.
I can relate with the topic of this post. It is when people get into their 20's they learn about life. It's like the start of understanding LIFE in general. Making realizations, making relationships, and making decisions. What I can say is that, having those current people in our life is our own choice. After the realization of "missing" those we've lost touch, we need not to compare them with the "current" people in our life. Hence, we need to starting keeping in touch again. Jobs, decisions and being a little more "judgemental" are part of growing up as people tend to THINK MORE. Life's getting more complicated for people who gets serious in life, no matter how hard someone avoids this reality, no one can stop it. People must live it. We aren't in control of life. But, we are in control of how we are going to live it.
ReplyDeleteA good read. something worth to get bookmarked.
I can also relate to this. It reminds me about my realization that the real world is harder, full of insecurities and less forgiving.
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