Being Twenty Something

Thursday, May 05, 2011 , 2 Comments

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Being Twenty Something

Wow. I’ve been going through some old online materials and I found this interesting read. It still has that deep impact – same as the first time I read it a few years back. The one who wrote this must be really involved with everything that’s happening in his life for him to be able to come up with this spot-on piece of writing. Read on.

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." 
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you could be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people. The only graceful way to accept an insult is to ignore it. If you can't ignore it, top it. If you can't top it, laugh at it. If you can't laugh at it, it's probably deserved.

When life throws you lemons, make lemonade. When life gives you scraps, make quilts. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. Make every day count.


Bowdy is an amateur adventurer, a coffee sleepyhead, and a start-up rooter, with a penchant for classic-looking photos. At last count, he has visited some 60 countries, and is now living in Singapore. He's always in search of fascinating routines to exploit, within the edges of after-office hours and (un)limited holidays.

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  1. I can relate with the topic of this post. It is when people get into their 20's they learn about life. It's like the start of understanding LIFE in general. Making realizations, making relationships, and making decisions. What I can say is that, having those current people in our life is our own choice. After the realization of "missing" those we've lost touch, we need not to compare them with the "current" people in our life. Hence, we need to starting keeping in touch again. Jobs, decisions and being a little more "judgemental" are part of growing up as people tend to THINK MORE. Life's getting more complicated for people who gets serious in life, no matter how hard someone avoids this reality, no one can stop it. People must live it. We aren't in control of life. But, we are in control of how we are going to live it.

    A good read. something worth to get bookmarked.

  2. I can also relate to this. It reminds me about my realization that the real world is harder, full of insecurities and less forgiving.